November 14, 2018

Shauna Pilgreen on Befriending Our Non-Christian Neighbors

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

Friends, I’m super excited to share today’s episode with you, but before we get to the show I want you to know that I’ll be closing this season on friendship in December with an “Ask Me Anything” episode. My friend Jo, whom I’ve known for more than years is joining me to tackle as many of your questions as we can fit into an episode, so submit yours today.

My guest today is Shauna Pilgreen. I’ve known Shauna for many years. Our husbands used to do college ministry at big state schools, and Shauna and I would join them each year for a small conference. As soon as I met Shauna, I really connected with her. We have similar hearts and passions and even similar ministry journeys, which you’ll hear about in our conversation. Shauna and her husband Ben planted Epic Church in San Francisco about 7 years ago. I’ve seen first hand how she loves the people in her city well, and I’m beyond thrilled that she’s written a new book called, Love Where You Live: Living Sent in the Place You Call Home.
I asked her to come on the show to talk about how we can love our non-Christian neighbors. Shauna gives such great tips on how we can turn conversations toward deeper things, and how we can overcome our own self-made barriers to sharing Christ with our non-Christian neighbors. I love when she says that loving our neighbors isn’t a monologue; it’s a puzzle we’re putting together for them. You’ll see what she means by that as you listen. 

Listen to my conversation with Shauna on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!


LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Preorder Shauna's book, Love Where You Live // Epic Church

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November 7, 2018

Marissa Henley on Loving a Friend Who is Suffering

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

Before we get to today’s episode, I want you to know that I’ll be closing our season on friendship in December with an "Ask Me Anything" episode. I’ve asked my longtime friend, Jo Franklin, to join me for a conversation where we’ll tackle your questions together. Jo and I have known each other since we were 10. She lives in Nashville with her husband and three kids, and is one of the most servant-hearted people I’ve ever met. If you’d like to submit a question for the "Ask Me Anything episode" simply click here.

Today my guest on By Faith is Marissa Henley. When Marissa’s kids were little, she was diagnosed with a rare and deadly form of cancer. As you can imagine, with one phone call, her life was immediately flipped on its head. As she began treatment, her friends came through for her in a big way. She’s written a new book called, Loving YourFriend Through Cancer, but you’ll find in listening to this episode that we can apply the examples and tips she gives to any sort of suffering in the lives of those around us. You’ll also find an example of faith and hope in suffering in her battle against cancer.
I'm giving away a copy of Marissa's book over on my Instagram page this week, so come find me there to win your copy. 

In addition, remember a few months ago when, in preparation for a talk on suffering within community, I crowd-sourced Instagram using this question: “What is the best thing a friend did for you in your suffering?” I got so many great responses that I compiled them and put them up on my blog as a go-to resource for all of us. I've made a printable of the list or you can simply read the blog post.

Listen to my conversation with Marissa on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!


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October 31, 2018

Jamie Ivey on Insecurity and Friendship (and Helping our Kids Navigate Friendship)

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

So far this season I’ve talked with incredibly insightful guests about what healthy and unhealthy friendship looks like, how to make friends, how to go deeper in those friendships, and in the last few weeks I’ve talked with Ruth Chou Simons, Hannah Anderson, and Jen Wilkin about the harder parts of friendship like hurt, conflict, and forgiveness.

As we’ve said countless times this season, friendship is often complex and complicated. I’m sure you've found that as you’ve listened, one angle on friendship opens up a thousand more...and a ton of questions! So, as I do each season here on the podcast, I’ll be closing our season on friendship in December with an "Ask Me Anything" episode. 

I’ve asked my longtime friend, Jo Franklin, to join me for a conversation where we’ll tackle your questions together. Jo and I have known each other since we were 10 years old. If you’ve read Messy Beautiful Friendship, you may remember Jo as the friend who sang “Friends are Friends Forever” on stage at church with me. We forgot half the words and laughed our way through most of it, which I’m sure we’ll talk about in the "Ask Me Anything" episode. If you’d like to submit a question--and it doesn’t have to be just about friendship--simply click here.
Today I’m so excited to welcome Jamie Ivey to the podcast. Jamie is host of the Happy Hour podcast and the author of the book, If You Only Knew. She’s married to Aaron, who is the worship pastor at The Austin Stone, and she’s mama to four. I asked Jamie lots of friendship questions, like about what has been hard for her in friendship, if she ever feels insecure around other women, and about how she’s helping her kids work through friendship issues. I just love Jamie, and I loved this conversation. I hope you enjoy it, too!

Listen to the conversation on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!

October 24, 2018

Jen Wilkin on the Mistakes We Make in Friendship

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

This podcast is made possible by generous listeners who support me through Patreon. If you’d like to help me continue in this work, click here to find out how you can do so. Thanks for considering!

Have you ever asked yourself, “As a Christian, Is it ever OK if I walk away from a friendship?” I certainly have asked that question, and it’s one that many women have asked me, because friendship can get really messy sometimes, and I think we all want an out when it gets hard. But is it ever OK?

I put that question and several others to my guest today, author and Bible teacher Jen Wilkin. Jen is a wife and mom of four. If you haven’t done one of her Bible studies yet, I’d highly encourage you to work through one. I’ve done several and each have been helpful in taking me further in my understanding of who God is and how to study the Bible myself.
           
Jen and I talk about how friendship has been hard for her, about asking for help from friends, and what women do that hinders the very friendship they long for. You need to know that I recorded this conversation with Jen when I was preparing to launch my book, Messy Beautiful Friendship, which was over a year ago. She says her book, In His Image, is not out yet, but I have good news for you! It’s out, and it’s a great book! In addition, she talks about having a year left with her youngest son at home but she is now an official empty nester. Tears emoji.

Listen to my conversation with Jen on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below.

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Genesis Study // In His Image // Jen's other books and Bible studies // Jen's free Bible studies

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October 17, 2018

Hannah Anderson on Wise Discernment in Friendship

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

Today my guest on the podcast is Hannah Anderson. Hannah is a wife, a mom, and the author of several books, including Humble Roots, which is one of my favorite books and one I have re-read, and I don’t usually re-read books. Hannah has a new book out called All That’s Good: Recovering the Lost Art of Discernment, so I invited her on the show today to help us apply discernment to our relationships. Sometimes the messier parts of friendship aren’t black and white and we need help thinking through what to do when there is distance in a friendship, how to have wise conflict, and how to, as the Bible says “faithfully wound a friend” when it’s necessary. Hannah is going to help us with these things today, as well as how to think about loneliness, and why she says if we’re doing relationships correctly, it often involves heartbreak.
Friends, if you’re enjoying these conversations, I’d be honored if you’d leave a review on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts. I’d be even more honored if you’d share By Faith with a friend who you think might enjoy joining in on these conversations.

Also, remember that every Wednesday, the day after By Faith releases, I jump on Instagram stories to answer questions from the week’s episode. What do you want to know or talk about after listening to Hannah’s wisdom? Find me on Instagram and let’s chat.

Listen to my conversation with Hannah on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below.

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

All That's Good // Humble Roots // Made for More

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