December 12, 2018

Lore Ferguson Wilbert on Loneliness and Friendship

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book, Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

This season we’ve looked at friendship from so many angles. We’ve defined friendship, talked about how to make friends, how to be vulnerable with others, and how to deal with hurts and insecurities in friendship. We’ve looked at practical ways to love and serve our friends, and we’ve explored friendship for men and women, and the pastor and the pastor’s wife. I’ve loved putting this podcast together for you, and I thank you for joining in to listen and interact with the content.

I want to say thank you for an incredible season of By Faith. Thank you for coming along with me on this exploration of friendship. I’m also grateful for my wonderful guests, who’ve given of their time to share their wisdom with us. Finally, I want to say a special thank you to my Patreon supporters who have made this season happen. Their financial support means I can continue to produce this podcast for you week after week, and it’s just good to have people in my corner rooting me on. Find out how you can join my team here. 

Today marks the last interview for this season on friendship. Next week join me for an "Ask Me Anything" episode where I’ll be answering your questions alongside my friend Jo.

(Also, in today's episode, I announce where we're headed next on By Faith, so make sure you listen all the way to the end!)

I’ve invited Lore Ferguson Wilbert to help me close out this season on friendship. Lore is a wife and writer. In fact, she’s one of my favorite writers, and I’m thrilled that she’s currently working on her first book. Lore and her husband have moved several times in their young marriage, and so I asked her to join me in order to talk about transition and loneliness. I think this conversation will be an encouragement to you today in whatever longing or aching you’re feeling when it comes to friendship, or just in whatever longing you’re experiencing in life in general. Lore talks about how God has good purposes even in our loneliness.

Listen to my conversation with Lore Ferguson Wilbert on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Lore's Website // My conversation with Lore on Singleness

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December 5, 2018

Drew Hunter on Men and Friendship

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book, Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

The season so far has focused pretty exclusively on women and how we relate to one another relationally. But I think friendship for men is a needed topic and discussion in this age when men are often more isolated and alone than ever. I see how men around me in my life desire friendship just as much as I do but often experience different obstacles than I do in forming those friendships.

So today I invited pastor and author Drew Hunter to join me on the show to help us think through friendship for men. How is it the same as friendship between women, and how are male friendships different? If we’re married, how can we help our husbands prioritize friendship? If you are a man yourself, I hope this will help you think through your own relationships and take necessary steps to cultivate friendship in your life.
Drew has a new book out called Made For Friendship. It's an excellent resource for both men and women on the subject of biblical friendship, and I was happy to endorse it.

Listen to my conversation with Drew Hunter on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Drew's Church // Drew's Book, Made for Friendship

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November 28, 2018

Kristie Anyabwile on Friendship for the Pastor's Wife

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book, Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

Last summer I did a short series for pastor’s wives, and in one of the episodes I chatted with Katie Orr about friendship for the pastor’s wife. This is a topic we pastor’s wives just can’t get enough of, because although friendship for women is tough for just about everyone, there is a layer of complexity for pastor’s wives when it comes to relationships within the church. So we’re going to tackle this topic again in this season on friendship.

Today I’ve invited Kristie Anyabwile to join me to talk about friendship for the pastor’s wife from her perspective. Kristie is married to Thabiti, who is the pastor of a church they planted together in Washington D.C. a few years ago. She's also a mom and a writer.

I want to remind you that I’ll be closing out this season in December with an "Ask Me Anything" episode on all things friendship. My longtime friend Jo will be joining me to tackle your questions. You can submit your questions here. I look forward to hearing from you!

Listen to my conversation with Kristie Anyabwile on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below:

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Kristie's church // Katie Orr on "Friendship for the Pastor's Wife"

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November 21, 2018

Tilly Dillehay on How Envy Affects Our Friendships

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

Today I’ve invited Tilly Dillehay onto to the show to talk about envy and how it affects our friendships. I didn’t previously know Tilly but as we started talking, God used her words to convict me of envy in one of my own relationships, which I confessed to that friend the very next day and has brought so much freedom in my life in an area where I’ve been struggling the past few months. So I personally am so thankful to have had this conversation and am happy to get to introduce Tilly to you.

Tilly is a pastor’s wife, living in rural Tennessee, so rural in fact that we had a few internet connection issues that you may notice in terms of audio quality. Tilly shares with me how she came to faith in Christ from agnoticism, about her years long struggle with envy in a specific relationship, and about how she learned to diagnose and confess envy. Tilly’s written a new book that I’m currently reading and am loving called, Seeing Green: Don’t Let Envy Color Your World. You'll definitely want to pick up a copy of this book after listening.

Listen to my conversation with Tilly on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Tilly's book, Seeing Green // C.S. Lewis' Weight of Glory (includes The Inner Ring essay)

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November 14, 2018

Shauna Pilgreen on Befriending Our Non-Christian Neighbors

Each week this season on By Faith, I’m talking with a guest about the ins and outs of friendship. As I wrote about in my book Messy Beautiful Friendship, friendship isn’t easy for anyone; it takes time, intentionality, and lots of grace. And sometimes we have to navigate complexities and hurts in friendship that leave us uncertain and crushed. I’m right there with you, and my guests are here to help us think through it all.

Friends, I’m super excited to share today’s episode with you, but before we get to the show I want you to know that I’ll be closing this season on friendship in December with an “Ask Me Anything” episode. My friend Jo, whom I’ve known for more than years is joining me to tackle as many of your questions as we can fit into an episode, so submit yours today.

My guest today is Shauna Pilgreen. I’ve known Shauna for many years. Our husbands used to do college ministry at big state schools, and Shauna and I would join them each year for a small conference. As soon as I met Shauna, I really connected with her. We have similar hearts and passions and even similar ministry journeys, which you’ll hear about in our conversation. Shauna and her husband Ben planted Epic Church in San Francisco about 7 years ago. I’ve seen first hand how she loves the people in her city well, and I’m beyond thrilled that she’s written a new book called, Love Where You Live: Living Sent in the Place You Call Home.
I asked her to come on the show to talk about how we can love our non-Christian neighbors. Shauna gives such great tips on how we can turn conversations toward deeper things, and how we can overcome our own self-made barriers to sharing Christ with our non-Christian neighbors. I love when she says that loving our neighbors isn’t a monologue; it’s a puzzle we’re putting together for them. You’ll see what she means by that as you listen. 

Listen to my conversation with Shauna on iTunes or, if you're on my website, in the embedded player below. Enjoy!


LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Preorder Shauna's book, Love Where You Live // Epic Church

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