July 12, 2011

Time Out

I'm taking some time out from my 30 Days of Encouragement for the Church Planter's Wife (wow, what a mouthful) to answer some general ministry questions that have come my way as of late. Hopefully they are a help to you today. This is also a prime opportunity to invite you to send in any ministry related questions that you'd like me to take a stab at. If I can't answer it, I'll find someone who can. So here goes...

My husband just accepted a ministry position. It's amazing, and I'm so excited for him. It's something that he's wanted for ever. We just got married in March of this year and he accepted the position about a month later. I don’t feel like I am prepared for the role that I now find myself in.
Can you offer your advice?

Congratulations to your husband on his new ministry position! I'm sure it will be an adjustment and transition for both you, especially it being your first year of marriage. My husband accepted his first church ministry position just before our first anniversary and it was a big adjustment for us in our marriage and in our personal lives. I pray that all goes well for you!

I could probably go on and on, but my primary advice to you would be:
1) Take your time and cut yourself some slack when it comes to figuring out how you can best serve your husband and how you can best serve in your new church. Don't jump into anything before you know God is calling you to do it.
2) Pray for and seek after another ministry wife with more experience to mentor you.
3) Always make your priorities follow this order: your relationship with God, your husband, future children and your home, and then church and community opportunities

I look forward to hearing how it goes!

I really enjoyed your article on being a helpmate. I've been looking for a book that contained more specific ways to be a good encourager and prayer warrior as a wife. If you have any books that have helped you out, I’d greatly appreciate their titles and authors.

There are so few really great books for ministry wives out there. The one I recommend most is High Call, High Privilege by Gail MacDonald. A close second: Window in a Glass House by Shirley Walker.

I personally am challenged in my own ministry to my husband by missionary or ministry biographies. These would include Faithful Women and Their Extraordinary God by Noel Piper, The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom, Peace Child by Don Richardson, and And the Word Came with Power by Joanne Shetler.

As far as marriage books in general, I recommend The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace, A Woman After God’s Own Heart by Elizabeth George, Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs, and Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas.

Readers, please feel free to add in your two cents or follow up with additional questions. Thanks!