April 19, 2013

Boy, Oh Boy, Oh Boy!

I always wanted to have boys. And that's exactly what God gave me: three boys who are 9, 7, and 5 and the lights of my life. They make me laugh, they amaze me with their thoughts and abilities, and they are every bit the blessing that the Psalms describe.

But I must say, they also perplex me. I am the lone girl in this house and, at times, I feel the loneliness of one. I don't always relate to the rough and tumble play or the unique needs of boys. I have just one sister, so I grew up in an estrogen-filled home, which I'm sure was totally different than what I'm experiencing but equally as perplexing to my parents. Teenage hormones, anyone?

Although I don't always understand boys, I'm glad I'm a mom of boys. I absolutely have no idea what I would do with a girl, aside from dressing her in adorable clothes. I do, however, know a thing or two by now about what it's like rearing boys. Here's what I know so far about raising children of the male variety:
He did his own band-aid work in response to a small scratch on his face. He also would not sit still for this picture. Boys. 
1. Boys are simple. As long as they're loved, rested, fed, and allowed an opportunity to get their energy out, they're perfectly content in life.
2. I'm convinced that bulk food stores were created for families with boys. My husband always says, "We won't have to pay for three weddings, but we're paying for three weddings one meal at a time."
3. One form--perhaps the most common form--of boy communication is wrestling.
4. When it comes to clothes for boys, all you need are a few bottoms, a few tops, a few superhero pajama sets, and one pair of shoes and you're good to go.
5. No matter their age, boys think tooting is funny.
6. Boys tend to be loud, rambunctious, and innately drawn to stories of adventure and valor.
7. Boys can make a game out of anything. They can also make a sword out of anything.
8. Boys don't like to answer a lot of questions. But when you get them tucked in bed and kiss them goodnight, feelings and thoughts tend to fall right out.
9. Boys like to be naked.
10. Boys love what their dad loves and they also really, really love their mamas.

I am not simple emotionally, I don't love to wrestle, and I prefer calm and quiet. But as a mom of boys,
I am embracing more and more the uniqueness of boyhood and the uniqueness of the family God has given me. I want to treasure my boys right into manhood, when they grow up to be men who still don't care about their wardrobe and who still think tooting is funny, but also men, I hope, who are men of godly adventure and valor like the stories they so love now.

How are you embracing the uniqueness of the family God has given you?

12 comments:

Christine said...

I have all girls (7, 4, 2), so my house if pretty much opposite :) There is a lot of crying and talking, talking, talking! As long as they keep talking to me when they are teenagers, I'll be glad :) I do enjoy having children all the same gender...it would be hard for me to change gears from the wild emotions of a girl to the wrestling of a boy, I think!

Christine said...

Loved all of your blogs but this one made me smile! I am a mom of two grown boys! Ages 22 and 20! I can totally relate! Before we had children I told my husband that I really wanted all boys! They have been such a blessing to me, even though I am the only female in the house. It has been amazing to watch them grow. Our prayer has always been that our boys would follow hard after God! No matter the age, that is really all that matters in their lives!

Christine said...

I guess it's either wild emotions or just plain wild! :)

Christine said...

Love this one Christine! And I echo your thoughts!

Christine said...

This was great! We have three kids...two girls and a boy in between. It is always fun to observe their different personalities. My husband and I have been recently convicted that we need to embrace and appreciate each one's unique gifts/abilities/quirks.

Christine said...

I love those 3 grandsons so much!! Can't wait to see them tomorrow!

Christine said...

Awww, warms my momma heart. This list describes my boys (I have three ages 7, 5 & almost 1) They have two sisters (ages 9 & 2) and the list is the same for them even with the girls around. To add one things to the list-they are, in the sweet moments, sensitive to the women in their lives. They don't like to upset me (although they forget that in the heat of the lego battles) and they don't like it when their sisters are sad. I think God made men like that, to be sensitive to the women He places in their lives. Love being momma to those little men.

Christine said...

I love that perspective and find it true in my house, too! Thanks, Mary.

Christine said...

I love that y'all have three boys like us! And congrats on your upcoming move! I have several friends in Nashville (Franklin, Brentwood area) so if you need recommendations on anything or would like to meet them, I'd be happy to connect you. One has 3 boys that are a little younger than mine. Anyway, I hope y'all are doing well! I hope we get to see you someday in person :)

Christine said...

Christine, I just read through your last 3 blogs with tears in my eyes for various reasons, but this blog brought tears of joy to my eyes, laughing out loud, and relating so well. As a mom of 3 girls and then our last a boy, the stark contrast between rearing girls and boys has never been so evident. How you described boys perfectly fit our son, and I never would've known except that God blessed us with him last. When I was pregnant with him, I thought having a fourth girl would just make life easier for us. But when he came, we were thrilled, and the girls most of all wanted a little brother. And he has each of his 3 sisters to meet his various needs: (1) the oldest to do things for him, read to him, show off to; (2) the second one to dote on him like a mamma, always ready with his comforting things when he is feeling sad or hurt; and (3) the youngest girl for playing, fighting, running crazy, and laughing at. When people ask me what it's like to finally have a boy, I say, "I've never had more balls in my house...for kicking, throwing, hitting, putting, dribbling, etc." A wise friend told me he would be simpler than the girls, to just give him a ball, and he'd be happy for hours. So true! That same friend also told me it would be good for the girls to have a brother so they could know what boys are like. So true again! I love my family, and am thankful for my boy!

Christine said...

My three boys are 5 years, 2 years, and 6 months. How they have taught my anxious heart to trust God's sovereign will through their bumps, bruises & bloodletting! My boys are also fiercely devoted to their father. Unlike other moms of all-boys, I do not bemoan that. I love to see it, because each time I do, it reminds me just what a respectable man I married.

Christine said...

This was good for my soul and made me laugh tonight after an exhausting evening with my 16 month old boy while I'm 18 weeks pregnant with another little boy. He is so rambunctious, I find my pregnant self exhausted by then end of the day. But after reading this, feeling blessed! :)

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