July 1, 2014

Push Through the Awkward

There is one piece of advice I give myself and other women more than any other and it is this: push through the awkward.

We are women who long for community and to live lives of purpose, but as anything that is good and beautiful and worth having, these things don't come just because we want them. They are invited by those who push through the awkward.
When I say to push through the awkward, I'm simply encouraging you to do things that make you uncomfortable: visiting a church's small group by yourself as a single woman when you know you're not going to know anyone, asking an older woman that you admire and want to learn from out for coffee, pursuing a passion that you worry others might find silly or a waste of time, starting something in your neighborhood to reach people even though it's possible no one will show up, agreeing to do something you've never done before that seems beyond your experience and abilities.

Being unwilling to push through the awkward keeps us in tightly controlled, safe places, but it also keeps us feeding on insecurities and frustrations. Of course, it's true that we may push through the awkward and then things will be, well, awkward. The person doesn't respond how we hoped. People don't get why we're doing what we're doing. Expectations and hopes take a little tumble.

But it's also true that we may push through the awkward and experience all sorts of incredible things, like a freeing dependence on the Lord, a deepening friendship, or the joy of doing what we instinctively know we were created by God to do.

We simply can't know unless we push through the awkward.

After living a lot of my life passively, I've discovered that pushing through the awkward is better than retreating almost all of the time. Because it's in pushing through the awkward that life gets a little bit crazy and a lot more complicated but also where God gets to come through.

I'll push through the awkward any day to experience that.

Where do you need to push through the awkward?

4 comments:

Christine Hoover said...

We recently moved to minister in a new context and there are many areas in which my perception is that I stick out like a sore thumb...that has brought a dose of humility and a good evaluation of why I do things that I do...but it's also accompanied with some shame, embarrassment and awkwardness. This post was refreshing! I've got some great thoughts to chew on today. Xoxo

Christine Hoover said...

Good! Glad this may give you the nudge to push through the awkward. :)

Christine Hoover said...

Wow thank you Christine for your encouraging words! I have just been reading through your book 'Partners in Ministry' and finding it so encouraging and challenging (in a very good way)! My husband is currently studying at seminary and it took me a while to come to terms with the idea of being a 'ministry wife' so your book and words here have been so helpful to me. :) I hope that the Lord continues to bless you in this gift you have with words! :)

Christine Hoover said...

I'm so glad you found the book helpful. And I'm especially glad it has helped you embrace the idea of being a ministry wife!

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