Messy Beautiful Friendship


“This book will minister to you no matter what season of life you are in and no matter what your current perspective on friendship may be.”—Gloria Furman, author of Missional Motherhood and Alive in Him

“Finally, here is a timely word to women, using his Word as guidance, on how to do this crazy thing called friendship well.”—Sara Hagerty, author of Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet

Has friendship been a struggle for you? 

Many women privately wrestle with the complexities of adult friendship. Perhaps you are one of them.
I certainly have struggled with friendship over the years. I’ve known years of friendship drought. I’ve experienced conflicts in relationships— some of my own making—that have tied my insides in knots. I’ve received wounds so bitter that I’ve retreated to cocoon in the false security of isolation.
But I’ve also experienced deep relationships with other women that have enriched my life beyond measure, pointed me toward Christ, and challenged me to grow. These relationships have taught me that friendship is worth any struggle they have taken to discover and deepen.
No matter where your friendships currently are, you’ve probably found that your heart never ceases longing for fulfilling companionship. Friendship seems such a rarity to find and such a fragile joy when we’ve found it, doesn’t it?
As I’ve let slip that I’ve been writing a book on friendship, the response has been something akin to thirst. Some, in larger audiences, have audibly squealed, not because they have anticipated my words, but because they are bursting with need of relief from their private fears and struggles. In one small group setting, a woman practically jumped across the table at me, reaching, as it were, for help. She is one of many seeking an oasis in a desert.
We all long for deep and lasting friendships but often find them challenging to make. The private angst we feel regarding friendship often translates into our own insecurity. In this book, I offer you a fresh, biblical vision for friendship, one that acknowledges the difficulties and past hurts, but also helps you move toward the relationships you desire.

I want to show you:

  • what's holding you back from developing satisfying friendships
  • how to make and deepen friendships
  • how to overcome relational insecurity and self-imposed isolation
  • how to embrace the people God has already placed in your life as potential friends
  • and how to revel in the beauty and joy of everyday friendship
Let me come alongside you as you intentionally and purposefully invest in one of the most rewarding relationships God has given us. I think you'll find that, however messy, friendship is beautiful indeed.
"I want to read this book ten times over and give it to every woman I know."--Lore Ferguson Wilbert, author and speaker