Messy Beautiful Friendship


“This book will minister to you no matter what season of life you are in and no matter what your current perspective on friendship may be.”—Gloria Furman, author of Missional Motherhood and Alive in Him

“Finally, here is a timely word to women, using his Word as guidance, on how to do this crazy thing called friendship well.”—Sara Hagerty, author of Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet

Has Friendship Been a Struggle for You?

Many women privately wrestle with the complexities of adult friendship. Perhaps you are one of them.
I certainly have struggled with friendship over the years. I’ve known years of friendship drought. I’ve experienced conflicts in relationships— some of my own making—that have tied my insides in knots. I’ve received wounds so bitter that I’ve retreated to cocoon in the false security of isolation.
But I’ve also experienced deep relationships with other women that have enriched my life beyond measure, pointed me toward Christ, and challenged me to grow. These relationships have taught me that friendship is worth any struggle they have taken to discover and deepen.
No matter where your friendships currently are, you’ve probably found that your heart never ceases longing for fulfilling companionship. Friendship seems such a rarity to find and such a fragile joy when we’ve found it, doesn’t it?
As I’ve let slip that I’ve been writing a book on friendship, the response has been something akin to thirst. Some, in larger audiences, have audibly squealed, not because they have anticipated my words, but because they are bursting with need of relief from their private fears and struggles. In one small group setting, a woman practically jumped across the table at me, reaching, as it were, for help. She is one of many seeking an oasis in a desert.
We all long for deep and lasting friendships but often find them challenging to make. The private angst we feel regarding friendship often translates into our own insecurity. In this book, I offer you a fresh, biblical vision for friendship, one that acknowledges the difficulties and past hurts, but also helps you move toward the relationships you desire.

I want to show you:

  • what's holding you back from developing satisfying friendships
  • how to make and deepen friendships
  • how to overcome relational insecurity and self-imposed isolation
  • how to embrace the people God has already placed in your life as potential friends
  • and how to revel in the beauty and joy of everyday friendship
Let me come alongside you as you intentionally and purposefully invest in one of the most rewarding relationships God has given us. I think you'll find that, however messy, friendship is beautiful indeed.

Want to Read and Study with a Group?

Study: A Five-Week Bible Study Guide
Download a free, five-week Bible study that will guide you through passages and questions related to friendship, such as how God designed friendship and what kinds of attitudes and mindsets we need in order to navigate friendship well. The study is best used as a group study and is designed to be completed as you read Messy Beautiful Friendship, but it can certainly be used by an individual as well.

Download your free Reader's Guide here.

Discuss: A Six-Week Group Gathering Guide for Leaders
Perhaps you want to use the Bible study guide in order to discuss friendship with others? Download a free, six-week guide to gather and lead others through the Bible study guide and the reading of Messy Beautiful Friendship.

Download your free Leader's Guide here.

Give: Printable Cards and Personalized Copies 
If you've already read Messy Beautiful Friendship and want to gift it to your friends and family as a present, I've set up shop online where you can purchase books and detail how you want them personalized. For U.S. addresses only at this time.

In addition, download some free cards inspired by the book to go with your gift, such as the one pictured here. Or if you aren't purchasing, simply download and use the cards for your note-writing and gift-giving. Fun!

Purchase a signed copy of my books here. 
Download free "friend" cards here.

"I want to read this book ten times over and give it to every woman I know."--Lore Ferguson Wilbert, author and speaker